Perimenopause Changes you, so lift your veil

It’s a new dawn

It’s a new day

It’s a new life for me

Lifting my veil and becoming who I am today has been the most profound and grounding experience.

If I’d known when my perimenopause started that I would go from being a woman who people pleased because of anxiety and had not a clue what was happening to her, when the symptoms started, to a woman who is confident, has boundaries of steel and really knows who I am then I would have researched earlier and started somatic practices years ago.

Why?

I’ve been on a journey of self discovery and trainings in practices to help myself and women like me for 20 years. When I became a Somatic Coach for Women, it was the amalgamation of years of learned skills and knowledge fusing into a beautiful way of working with women. My boundaries because so strong and have never weakened since because I truly connected with me and finally knew what I want in life and what I do not. It’s a great feeling to be able to use no as a complete sentence and back that up with no response to a message or comment which I find inappropriate or offensive. I am no longer reactive but I am now responsive. I’ve leant to enjoy the spaciousness of life and take my time.

I am on the eve of my 49th birthday and have had revelations over the recent months which would’ve flipped me upside down in previous years. Now they do not because I feel safe enough to have the confidence to embrace who I am fully and let everyone around me know this is who I am today. I am not the Jade of yesteryear.

Safety comes from a regulated nervous system. Knowing how to guide yourself, your day and the people around you. This is how to regulate and keep a balance of safety within. That is what body led work helped me master.

There is an internal hierarchy of needs which we often ignore as women, especially in perimenopause. It leads to emotional imbalance, lack of connection to your wisdom, little self compassion and an utter sense of threat. Then you wonder why you can’t sleep, feel drained, have chronic fatigue, moods like a rollercoaster and are completely overwhelmed.

The lifting of your veil needs tending to like you would look after a child. You need rest, love, wisdom to do what’s right for you and the ability to speak your boundaries and stick to them. Most of all you need safety to become who you are blooming into. That’s what lifting your veil is…. Letting go of your old personas to become the new woman inside waiting to unveil herself.